Today was one of those days. You know when you feel like you’re going to have a bad day so you do something nice for someone else to make you feel better? Well today, I came home at lunch and baked cookies 🍪. Not homemade cookies but the kind you buy out of the refrigerated section of the grocery store and pop in the oven. Then I prepared a salad for both me and my husband. I knew he was at the gym so I left him sticky notes 📝 and told him how much I loved him.
My husband was kind enough to pick up our daughter from school and took her to the park. When I got home I spoke to my oldest two children, who are visiting with their dad, about their interim reports for school. It took me an hour to review those, email their teachers about missing assignments and their school counselors about the login information to track their grades.
Once that was done I began to help my little one with her homework. She’s in the first grade and still can’t tie her shoes or put them on the right foot. She struggles with reading and writing certain letters and numbers backwards. Tonight we practiced writing her numbers from 1-70 until she became frustrated, then quit. She began working on her math problems as I cleaned up the kitchen and prepared her dinner. All while my wonderful husband who had the entire day off, sat on the couch and watched T.V.
I could feel my blood begin to boil. Then I reminded myself that I was not a child and he was not a mind reader. I used my words like the adult that I am and told him that I would really appreciate his help. He said nothing and didn’t move. Talk about fuming 😤. I walked upstairs, tidied up my daughters room and prepared everything she needed for her bath tonight and school tomorrow. That’s when I heard him talking to our daughter. He was helping her finish up her homework.
What therapy taught me? I’m an adult and adults SHOULDN’T throw temper tantrums like children. Proverbs 29:11 teaches me- A fool always loses his temper, but a wise man holds it back. My medications help me control and hold back
Proverbs 15 is actually a great reference on how staying calm is better than lashing out when angry 😡
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. 2 The tongue of the wise adorns knowledge, but the mouth of the fool gushes folly. 3 The eyes of the LORD are everywhere, keeping watch on the wicked and the good. 4 The soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit.
By the way, I have sat on the couch, typing this post quietly for the past 45 minutes. I have not said one word to my husband. Not to give him the silent treatment but to maybe make him a little nervous and give him the time to reflect on how he can next time be more helpful and considerate of to his wife and child’s needs. We’ll see🤐